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Dom wife’s tale of changing her hubby into aChastity Belt 3Sun, March 16, 2008 – 6:06 AMThe Wives’ View Submitted by: Mary Chastity is something that Mark, my husband of 12 years, and I have had an interest in for some time. It became an important part of our life five years ago. I work in the insurance industry and have to travel a lot. He often has to work long hours. We realized that our sexual life was fading away. After Mark gave me a strong nudge to consider using chastity for him, I decided it was worth looking into almost anything to put the spark back into our marriage. Since Mark was an executive at an engineering firm, I let him do the initial research on finding the right chastity device, while I put a lot of effort into researching how to make chastity work for us. I have always felt that being well informed about something enables you to do it well. Whether you are reading this to help you do your own research on chastity or your partner gave this to you one thing is apparent, you obviously have some sort of interest or you wouldn’t be taking the time to read about the amazing concept of male chastity and its benefits. There is a lot on the internet on chastity including a wonderful commentary by Marie which I took as a starting point, and there are several internet support groups and chat rooms which seem to startup and die down as people move around. I have communicated over the years with over six dozen wives who keep their husbands chaste. I have met several of them in person and the one thing they all agreed on was that the benefits of chastity for their husbands were incredible. It may amaze you, as it did me, to find out that so many men and women use chastity as part of their relationship, really more than you could imagine. There was a newspaper article a while back that stated that well over a million of the plastic CB2000/3000 type chastity devices have been sold. This just goes to show that male chastity is less bizarre than you probably thought and there is a lot of it being practiced, probably by some of your girlfriends. This document is a summary of what I have found out talking with many other women and practicing chastity with Mark for several years. I hope that it will help other wives considering a chastity lifestyle for their husbands. Before you embark on considering putting your man in a chastity device, you need to ask yourself the following questions. Are you unhappy with how much attention he now pays to you? Do you think that at least part of the problem is that he is paying too much attention to pornography or other women? Has he admitted to you that he masturbates too much? Would you be willing to give up intercourse, if you got a lot more attention including a lot more oral sex? Do you recognize that you too have also let your relationship dwindle over time as he has grown more distant? Are you willing to take control and put in the effort to make your relationship work in a new and exciting way? If yes, you should consider chastity for your husband! To put this in pop psychology terms, Mars and Venus were attracted to each other, romanced each other and fell in love. Mars and Venus got married. Mars eventually retreated into his cave as men are apt to do and while there found it convenient to masturbate rather than be with Venus. All too rarely does he emerge to pay any attention to Venus. Venus thought that with marriage Mars was hers and that life would be a forever version of their fairytale courtship days. She ignored the advice of wise mothers to daughters for generations that if you want to keep your man you have to keep making him want you, because it sounded sexist and not needed in the modern world. What is a wise Venus to do if she wants a happy lifelong marriage? She has to stop passively letting her marriage pass her by. The first step is that Venus needs to take control by keeping Mars from masturbating in the cave by locking him in a chastity device. The second step is for Venus to enthusiastically embrace her biological and psychological role in keeping Mars turned on. The third step is for Venus to get Mars’ problem solving nature focused on how he can please her and for her to stop thinking the answer is to their happiness is to figure out what she can do please him. To make chastity work you need to first develop a plan and then whole heartedly put it into action. I read a lot and communicated with many others and the strong consensus was that if chastity is to change your marriage has to be real and not a game. It has to be a 24/7 part of your relationship. 24/7 is the foundation; it is what changes men for the positive because they shouldn’t have the opportunity to control their sexual release. This is one of the areas that the goddess, lady, mistress, keyholder or whatever you prefer to be known as must have absolute control of. Although the woman remains in control it is very important to remember that you and he are still a couple in a relationship, he is still your husband and that shouldn’t be forgotten, your relationship only changes once you close the bedroom door. Life goes on as it always has, employment, financial, family issues and decisions are all still there. Your dominance should not interfere in other areas though you will find he will react differently, often positively, as his feelings and emotions change. Whether this is something that he initiated, the two of you mutually agreed upon or something that you requested from him. One thing is a necessity, there needs to be something for him to gain. He is giving up something that is a very important part of a male’s life, his sexual abilities. You need to realize that he should be rewarded as you will be, but obviously in a much different way. You know the things that he likes, that arouse him and put a smile on his face. Often times we find that these are things that really do not interest us but considering the sacrifice that he is making you too can make sacrifices. Like marriage, Chastity needs mutual rewards and often you will find those things that you reward him with will lead to an increase in his being aroused and enhancing his over all demeanor. It could be giving massages or trying sexual things that he likes but you never desired to try. You know how to dress to turn him on and you need to find out his fetishes if you don’t know them already and indulge them.All of this will heighten his happiness and arousal. He is making a permanent change in his lifestyle and you too may need to make some permanent adjustments so that he feels things are fair. All men, given the ability, masturbate and way more often than most women think they do. This is something that is difficult for him to control and even more difficult to part with. Young men have an abundance of testosterone so masturbation doesn’t seem to interfere with their pursuit of young women. However, as men grow older masturbating usually translates into the husband ignoring his wife for at least a couple days. Chastity puts a stop to the masturbation and works in many ways; it changes his mood, demeanor and libido. Most importantly it changes his desire to please you. It is not the goal for him to do the cooking or the cleaning or the laundry but you will find that it will happen, not routinely but it will happen. Because as he continues to build up his sexual energy that he no longer has the ability to release as he pleases he will divert that energy towards pleasing you. Your being the source of his sexual pleasure will change how he feels about you all the time, not just when he wants sex. He will adore you, love you in a way that you desire and he will be eager to please you because you are, as I said, the source of his release. He will find, over time, he is happier and that will be because you’re happier. He will love the emotional boost the two of you share ! How to do it, that is an extremely important decision. Developing the correct plan, one that would work for my husband, was the most detailed part of the research process. By taking the advice of many other women, I was able to put a well informed plan together that I was confident that would be successful. I followed this plan from day one and still, do to this day. I have found it works. Other ladies have also utilized variations on this plan successfully, and it always works every time, without failure We must always remember that sexually we are always in command and that first and foremost we will always be sexually satisfied. This is the cornerstone to happiness for both you and him. Keeping you sexually satisfied is your husband’s job And you need to develop your interest for sex. And why not, sex is fun, and under your terms it is even more so, you deserve orgasms, don’t worry about his. Mark does so anywhere and anytime I say and by any means that I demand. His not being able to experience the pleasure of an orgasm only means that I experience many more than ever before. You may think that this works only to your advantage and that is a common misconception. It is just as advantageous for him. He must keep you satisfied to eventually get his release. Every time he satisfies you he is happy because he has made you happy. It is important to instill to him that his primary means of sexual gratification will be through you having orgasm. Eventually every time you experience an orgasm he will have a sense of sexual satisfaction. How you will accomplish this I will explain in a moment. What could be better, your being pleasured any way you like and experiencing wonderful sensations. He can not have an orgasm but he feels satisfied because you are and he will maintain a high libido. Although you’re still equals outside of the home you are the queen of the bedroom and he is your slave. To enforce that you do have a certain amount of control it is important that he is forced to do and maintain a change in his appearance, something between you and he. This must be something that would be embarrassing for him when out in the general public so it should be concealed. Generally something under his clothes; replacing his underwear with ladies panties or requiring him to wear a girdle if he is overweight are popular examples. Some of the women think that a man’s feet are best, easily covered or uncovered based on your orders and modifications could be removed when you feel it is necessary and reapplied when the time is suitable. In my case, Mark wears a gold ankle bracelet and must paint his nails with clear polish except for occasions that I instruct him to do something different. With the exception of work and exercise he must wear whatever footwear I designate. High heels are a particular favorite since he likes these on me and he looks so funny when he tries to walk in them. I find this does absolutely nothing for me sexually but it re-enforces to him the fact that I am in control. Achieving your desired results is easier than you might think. It is an empowering experience. Depending on your situation there will be differences but there are parameters that should be followed to achieve the greatest results. The most important step is always the first one. This is where he is made to understand that you control his sexual pleasure.Most of the women I have talked with agree that it is best to lay out the terms of your new relationship with him in the strongest possible terms. Most favor a written contract, which I followed, so there is no room for confusion. My terms and the consensus advice from those women I talked with are that he agrees to have his penis pierced and permanently locked in a chastity device of your choosing. That you alone have the power to grant him an orgasm and that you may decide never to allow him to have another one. That he agrees perform all services, domestic and sexual, that you request. That he agrees to being disciplined in any way you deem appropriate. That because he is locked in a chastity device that you need to find other people to meet some of your sexual needs, having sex with other men allows you total sexual freedom. Your Husband will accept this as your Chaste Cuckold and should adapt quite well, in fact he probably will prefer the change he sees in you. Anything less than this and he has either not admitted that there is a problem, that the solution has to be permanent and completely effective, or that he has to give up total control of his sexuality and yours to you. Your having other sexually partners or Cuckolding as it is called is an alternate lifestyle that is rapidly gaining in popularity, women today keep their own names and finances. Most of the women I have communicated with had other partners in addition to their locked up hubby, they use these partners for sex, they love their husband. The freedom of being able to try different lovers and not being considered any mans property just because of marriage was very rewarding. Having a man to do things with you that your husband cannot is very useful at times and can really perk up a vacation trip. A few of the women have had a fling or two and maybe their agreement with their husband made them more comfortable doing this, the husbands neither felt jealousy or betrayal, they were happy for her. Some of the women I talked with, though, did not carry on with other sexual partners because once their hubbies were locked up they were getting all the oral sex and attention they could ever want. Other women used partners because their husband was on a release schedule and they wanted more sex than their husbands schedule permitted, or they wanted real cock penetrative sex instead of dildoes. Some of them tease their husbands about the possibility of seeing other men. Some husbands preferred being Chaste Cuckolds and encouraged their wife to have sex with other men between the husbands allotted release dates. A few of the women I talked with volunteered that if things had kept going like they had been in their marriages they would have to had sought out an affair because they felt so unloved. It is almost universally held by women who seriously practice chastity for their male that initial enforcement of chastity should be at least three months of continuous wear without relief after you go through the break in period of getting a device that fits. Preventing him from having an orgasm Escort for three month period may seem a bit harsh but it is paramount to your success as it allows his body and mind to adjust to the lack of masturbation and sexual pleasure as desired. This allows you time to find suitable partners for sex if you are going to Cuckold him when locked. Enforcing the first three month period will allow him to get in to the proper frame of mind and make him understand your desire and your commitment and your determination to his being chaste. It will also give you the chance to develop the strength to say “no”, GIVING IN IS THE BIG MISTAKE, BE STRONG. He should be made aware of the time frame immediately upon his being secured in his device, this allows for a clear understanding of the initial commitment of time. If he is at all uncooperative during this first three months, you should add additional time to his lock up. I gave Mark a one week extension as a warning about whining about getting out and a one month extension the second time he more bluntly told me he needed out. After that there were no more incidents but I was seriously considering three months for the next offense. I tend to agree that with the more experienced women that I talked with that you cannot be too strict with respect to the initial lockup. You want to achieve the triple goals of getting yourself past feeling that it is your duty to give him orgasms, getting him focused on his new role of pleasing you, and your becoming comfortable with being in charge. If you haven’t achieved these goals then lengthen the time. In retrospect, I think that I came down hard on Mark and added the extra month because I felt myself falling into the trap of feeling that I had to let him have an orgasm since I saw him so frustrated by the chastity device. I am glad that I did. When I finally let him out it was on my terms. After my experience and talking with several other women, I have come to strongly hold the view that it would be even better if the initial chastity period is set at ONE YEAR with further extensions for any serious misbehavior. After three months of being locked up your hubby would be willing to do almost anything for a release. The chastity device will have done its job physically but mentally some men can hold out for three months and bounce back to their old ways. Once you let them cum they expect future orgasms on a regular basis. He will have signed a contract with you saying that you can deny him permanently but believe me there is a big difference between telling a man that he can have an orgasm at the end of three months and telling him that it will be at least a year. A year’s time horizon puts an end to all the fun and games and excitement he may associate with chastity. It makes your agreeing to lock him up permanently the very serious proposition that it is. A year’s initial lock up tells him that you are committed to making your relationship work long term. Once he hands you the keys there is no turning back. A chastity lifestyle will be very hard on him initially and a year without a release will make that very clear to him. You will have put a permanent end to his masturbating. Let me say this again so you will understand !! You will have put a permanent end to his masturbating. You will have put a permanent end to his masturbating. His life will never be the same after. Rather than pleasuring himself when he wants, he will become dedicated to pleasuring you when you want it and how you want it. Some of the women I talked with said their males back down from their wanting to be put in chastity when faced with a year’s lock up. If so, he is not yet willing to surrender the control to you necessary to make the relationship work through the use of chastity.Don’t push him, just gently remind him whenever he brings up the topic of chastity that you will only do it on your terms. When he agrees, he is ready and you should keep up your end of the bargain strictly without wavering a bit. You also need more time than three months to explore how make his chastity work best for you. I was counting the days until I could have intercourse with Mark again. If you know it is going to be at least a year you will start to experiment and think about how to train him to pleasure you without worrying about his having an orgasm. When you can do this it will have change the dynamic of your relationship in a way that set you and him on the path to long term happiness. Upon completing his initial confinement period I assure you that you can give him an experience like he has never had before, this is a reward for the couple. You will have a sense of strength for enforcing it and him for getting thru it. You should make his orgasm a slow drawn out one with lots of teasing. It will be all too easy for him to cum very quickly. You may need to tie him down to keep him on edge but when you finally do let him cum it will be almost too much for his body to handle. Once you allow him his first release it is entirely up to you how many sexual experiences you allow, how they occur and how the ejaculate is disposed. A very important step during any release period is to ensure that you will get him right back in to his device. Some of the women do this by always tying him down before the device is removed. While this has its old school charms, there are lots of other options. Locking his hands behind his back in a pair of steel handcuffs is a quick way to keep him from grabbing his penis if you are teasing him. I also have a waist belt with a pair of leather cuffs attached which is easy and fun to use. You can get something similar for cuffing his hands to his thighs. A wonderful device called a humbler works well if you want him to have use of his hands to pleasure you. If all you are doing is inspecting penis and making sure the device is cleaned then I just put the handcuffs on one of his wrists or ankles prior to removing his device. Before the cuff comes off he has to be secured back in his chastity tube. I am confident that he would not be willing to go to work with the dangling cuff. Several of the other women have tried this trick and found it works well. The less that you have to worry about his arguing that the device doesn’t have to immediately go back on the more likely you are to take it off frequently which promotes both teasing and keeping the tube and his penis clean. There were a number of different views about how often a male should be allowed to cum after the initial denial period. Some of the women with younger males let theirs have an orgasm about once a week. I suspect that they were masturbating a couple times a day before this so that once a week is a big reduction. Most of the women I talked to though thought that it was best to strike a balance between keeping them completely denied and giving them some hope of gaining a release. You will need to experiment to see what works best for you. The most common belief was that it was not good to allow their male to achieve an orgasm more than once per month but most thought that his orgasm should not very often be withheld for more than three months unless there was a good reason for doing so. Several women who I have become friendly with though believe that four a year is the right number. Some of the women liked to think about how often hubby could have an orgasm as a small fraction of the number of orgasms they had. A hundred to one ratio was popular but you can pick the number to suit your needs and gets the time between releases just about right. This approach gives him a strong incentive to initiate sex. I suspect that Mark would be unbearable and unstoppable if this was the rule but you know yourself and your hubby and can always experiment. Some of the other women like to set goals for their hubbies where they be allowed an orgasm earlier than scheduled if a big goal was met. One of the women I talked with wanted her husband to lose 40 pounds. After he completed the initial three month lock up, he was given a mind blowing orgasm that seemed to make all worthwhile to him. She brought him back down to earth by telling him that their relationship was so much better with him locked in his chastity tube that he would now get out only once a year for a release. She then told that she would let him out early one time during the year for each ten pounds that he lost and that for each five pounds he gained he would get three months added on to his lockup. She was thrilled with the results. He got fifty pounds off during the year and got five extra orgasms. Now, he is right where she wants him, fifty pounds lighter and locked on a one year interval with the threat that it will be over two years if he gains back even half the weight he lost. Males who had cheated with other women rather than by being chronic masturbators usually got very harsher treatment meted out by their wives. The other wives are quick to talk a newcomer out of any thought of leniency for her husband if had sex with another woman. Several of these males are locked up permanently in some very mean devices with no chance of release ever as a condition of not being divorced. I have told Mark that he is lucky that he is locked up and cannot stray because I now know what can be done to an adulterous husband to make him suffer evermore. He knows he would get the full treatment and then some. I personally have found that a good baseline is to not allow double digit releases, meaning less than ten per year. You may find that you allow him to be released monthly and then decide that you would enjoy making him go for a longer period. It is alright to suddenly increase the time. He might ask why and you simply need to tell him why; I have responded with “because I am in control of your sexual abilities and I enjoy denying you, the longer I deny you the more you become frustratingly horny and thus I feel a sense of satisfaction”. Right now I am following the advice of several of the women I am friends with to have Mark go an entire year without an orgasm just to see how hard I can push him and how well he can handle it. We are eight months into it now and it has been wonderful. I have really stepped up the teasing and managing Mark takes more time and discipline. The payoff is that I have had more great sex than I have ever had and Mark has become sweeter and more devoted to trying to please me than I ever thought possible. He has done this without any whining since I told him that I would happily add on another year if he did. The most common question women new to chastity ask is what type of device to put him in. The consensus advice, which now unfortunately now with too much experience I have to concur, is to prepare yourself for some frustrating trial and error to find the right device and the right fit. There is no right device for all males. It is a bit like finding the perfect pair of shoes. The chastity device needs to be custom fit. It has to be comfortable if he is going to live with it on 24/7 and it has to be completely secure and effective if you are going to be happy with it. There are two basic types of devices, chastity tubes and chastity belts. The chastity tubes usually have the tube attached to a ring that goes over his cock and behind his balls. The belts go around the waist. They also have a tube which is attached to the front shield part that forces the penis straight downward. With a narrow tube, a good belt is very effective at preventing erections. Some of belts come with attachment points so you can hook a dildo to the front shield for you to use or to insert a dildo into his anus. The main drawback with the chastity belts is that they are expensive, bulky and much less comfortable than the tube devices for many men to wear. They also need to be sent back for waist adjustments if his waist size goes up and down. Most of the women I have talked with use tube type devices but there are some women with custom made belts by Chastitysteel that love them. I have two chastity tube devices from Mistress Lori (chastitytube.com), a woman on a mission to put an end to male erections, masturbation, and cheating. I have her number 7 which is a short straight steel tube which has a ring that goes behind the balls for normal use, and an acrylic number 14, which I use on Mark when he travels and has to go through metal detectors. Many of the other women have tube devices from Lori. Once you have get the right fit in one of her tubes you could lock your hubby up forever and he will never been able masturbate again. There are men who have been locked in her tubes that have not been allowed to cum for over a decade. It was not easy though getting a belt or a tube to fit right. Many of the women have had to go through several devices or alternations to finally get the right one. A few got lucky the first time but don’t count on it. The best advice here is to be patient and let your hubby put in most of the effort into getting a device that fits right. He is the one who has to wear it all the time. Have trial lock ups until he is ready to be locked down permanently. Don’t be surprised even then if you have to stop a week or two into the lock up to get something fixed or let the piercing tough up some more. If there is a problem take off the device and see if it can be quickly fixed. Sometimes there is just a spot that has been rubbed raw and needs some ointment or the device left off for a couple of days. If you have to send the device back to be altered, start the clock over when it comes back and you lock him up again. Eventually, the device kinks will get work out. I just wish I had been aware of this when because there were some discouraging times until Mark was able to wear the device without problems for over a month. I slowly came to terms with being able to permanently lock him up and the satisfaction of knowing that his days of masturbating behind my back were finally over. For both kinds of chastity devices, there are three things to remember. First, his penis needs to be pierced so that a bar or loop can be put through it and locked to the device. Otherwise, as many of the women I have talked to found out the hard way with CB3000 type devices, he will eventually figure out how to pull his cock and whack off behind your back. Escort Bayan Once he can do this chastity is just a game for him. It is not real and he not you is in control. A lot of the women I talked to balked initially at getting their husband’s penis pierced. Some of the women were turned off by the thought of the pain in having it done or by the look or what they thought it would feel like inside of them. Not a single one of women I talked with regretted having their hubby pierced once he had been securely locked down tight in the chastity device for a while. Getting the piercing doesn’t hurt him that much and if you don’t like the look or feel of the piercing jewelry then don’t use him with it in. I just leave the rod from the chastity tube on the table next to the device when I take it off. With the device off, Mark has two small holes on the underside of his penis that are not very unnoticeable when the rod is out. The usual comment I got from many women I talked with was that they were sorry they had wasted time playing around with toy chastity devices like the CB3000. They felt a sense of betrayal when they finally figured why chastity no longer seem to be working – their hubbies had figure out how to secretly pull their cocks out of it and have fun on their own. The advice of the other women when this sort of cheating was uncovered was always to take the male to get pierced immediately and then to lock him up after the piercing was fully healed for a year rather than three months because of the dishonesty. That is was one of the ways several of us started to notice how much better a year’s initial lockup worked than three months. You can get him a Prince Albert or PA piercing which is a single hole (6 or 8 gauge) through the underside of his penis and out though the pee slit or a frenum piercing (6 or 8 gauge) which is sideways piercing on the underside behind the head of his penis.Both have their advantages and problems. A lot of men do not want to get a Prince Albert piercing since they now spray pee out of the bottom hole as well as the slit. This means always having to sit down to pee but they will have to do this anyway since they once they are permanently locked up in a chastity device. I think the women of the world would rejoice if all males were chastised and no more toilet seats were left up. A PA piercing is almost painless to get and heals fairly quickly although it can be painful for him to pee the first couple of times afterwards and it can bleed a fair amount for the first couple of days. It is best to wait at least three months to make sure it is healed before putting the chastity device on and, if it seem tender then after some trial break in days, you might need to wait a month or two longer. The frenum piercing that Mark has is less conspicuous than the ring that usually goes through the PA since it is a bar that goes through the skin underneath the penis. Its main problems are that it does not heal as quickly and the first time it is done the piercing often does what is called migrating. That is it moves forward through the skin until it breaks free or has to be taken out because it will break free. This happened to me with Mark and several of the other women I talked with had the same experience. The usual suspect for causing this problem is putting the chastity device on before the piercing has fully healed, but I think that having the first frenum piercing migrate out is almost inevitable for many men. Fortunately, he can be pierced again with another frenum behind the first one. The second one is usually charmed. It is likely to hold if you wait about four months until it is fully healed since scar tissue from the first frenum usually prevents the second one from migrating. I think that I might have gone with a PA if I had known about the problems the first frenum caused even though Mark was very reluctant to get a PA. The frenum though does have three advantages. The big one is that inflicts much more pain when his penis tries to become erect than the PA. This is because, as the penis gets hard, the frenum rod digs deeply into the bottom of the penis right behind the sensitive head. This makes the deflating pinch a Lori’s tube is designed to deliver much nastier . All in all a Lori’s tube with frenum a much more severe chastity device than one with a PA. Mark has now tasted this property of the frenum many many times and I suspect if given the choice over he would jump at the chance to have a PA rather than a frenum. I have really come like this feature of the frenum though because I don’t want to Mark to be able to hard at all even in the confined space of his chastity tube unless I decided to let him. I also think that a frenum helps to reduce your hubby’s wanting to be all over you physically. This is a problem most women have once he is in chastity which is a little odd after years of little physical affection from him. This problem has to be dealt with by your being firm about what you are willing to allow and where. When I deliberately tease Mark, I sometimes pull the frenum rod out of the chastity tube as a signal that it is ok to now try to get an erection without being punished for the effort by the frenum rod. You don’t need to worry though because the tube will still stop the erection from going very far and increase his frustration. One of the women I talked with, whose hubby had a problem with his PA piercing, got him pierced the second time with a frenum and put him in a tighter Lori’s tube. She said with his PA tube on he still looked at porn all the time, although the PA tube had prevented him from successfully masturbating so the porn just made him hornier. The much greater pain the smaller frenum tube inflicted on any attempted erection, however, put a stop to his porn habit. Another upside of the frenum is that the PA bar can have a mean pinch for some men if their penis shrinks too much but the pull on the frenum is quite mild if the tube is short enough. The last advantage is that the two holes that the frenum rod goes through will close up much like an earring hole if it is not used whereas as the PA hole is more or less permanent. This would not be an issue for me now that I have seen the benefits of permanent chastity and would never go back to letting Mark freely masturbate. It might be though for a woman who initially wanted to try out a serious chastity program but was not sure it was going to work. One of the questions that is often asked is what should you do during while the piercing is healing. During the first month his penis should not have sex of any kind but after that it is ok with a condom. You can use the time period when the piercing is healing to get him started on pleasuring you. Some of the women also bought a CB3000 chastity device to help get the process started of hubby’s being in chastity started. This seems to work well. The CB3000 will toughen up the skin behind where the teste ring will fit on a Lori’s tube and if you get him an insert for CB3000 from luvtolock.com or keptforher.com it will be very difficult for him to pull out and almost impossible for him to get his penis back in. These inserts can cause edema or swelling so I don’t think they are a good long term solution. I have a CB3000 with an insert and it works well for a few days. I still use my CB3000 occasionally when I want to give him a break from his Lori’s tube without letting him out of chastity. All chastity devices can some time rub spots in the wrong way occasionally so it is not bad to have a couple which fit differently if you can afford it. If you cannot afford a custom fit device it is possible make a CB3000 secure if you lock his piercing to it. This is not good to lock his penis to a chastity device until it is fully healed no matter how much you want to get started. Long term a custom fit device is going to be more comfortable for him to wear and will prevent erections which a CB3000 does not. I think it is worth the investment. The second thing you need in a chastity device is to get him in the smallest tube his penis will fit in while soft so he can not get an erection in the device. Because a small tube quickly limits the growth of his penis it also keeps the pressure off the piercing. Often the original tube ordered turned out to be too wide or too long because of the male’s optimistic easurements or fear of being too confined. After a while in a chastity tube, the penis has a tendency to shrink a bit which makes the getting the right sizing initially difficult. Males who are what is known as growers, their penis get much larger when excited, are much harder to fit than those who are showers, those whose penis gets hard but not much larger. If you get the tube too small his penis will get fluid retention which is called edema but otherwise, smaller is better. You want him completely dependent on you for getting an erection and a smaller tube will actually be more comfortable after he has adjusted to it. A loose tube can also allow enough growth from an erection that with sliding the tube up and down or a vibrator on it some males can successfully masturbate. The last thing is that the device needs to prevent him from rubbing his penis particularly the head. Many males if they can rub the head can cum although it is a pretty frustrating orgasm almost akin to milking and hence not much to worry about except that you want him completely under your control. Chastity belts work best on this account since they completely deny access to the penis. If you get a Lori’s tube or one its competitors make sure you get it with extra bars over the penis head area. I don’t know why Lori doesn’t do this automatically for all of her devices. Lori does make short device in both stainless steel and acrylic without any hood she calls a wedding ring that attaches with a frenum piercing. Several of the women I talk with have one. Some use it full time and some put it on when they want to engage in really heavy teasing. If you get this narrow enough he cannot get off a real orgasm but can get off what is a very painful version of what is sometimes called a ruined orgasm where his body thinks it is going to cum but then the semen just dribbles out without any sense of relief. I don’t want my hubby to have any access to his penis much less be able to do this on his own. However, some of the women like it though since it tends to make their hubby even more frustrated. Lori’s wedding ring is lightweight and has no teste ring so it is much more comfortable for a male to wear. I have been thinking about getting one but just for teasing since it allows you to get at all the most sensitive parts of his penis without worrying about his being able cum. From time to time you might find it necessary to punish him for what ever reason, he might refuse to provide you with sexual pleasure as instructed or he spoke to you in a negative and degrading way; there are certainly many possible infractions. The most effective punishment is to increase his time of confinement; this should always be done in at least a week increment. But you will probably find that additions of two weeks or a month will be more effective unless you like having him continually testing you which I don’t. As an example let’s say he was tired or in a bad mood and failed to enthusiastically provide oral sex to you one evening. If this happens it is imperative that you do what he would not. Masturbate yourself to as many orgasms as you like, he may then attempt to provide for you but you must not allow him to. After you have satisfied yourself let him know that his refusal requires that he be punished and that you have decided that an additional month will be added to the time that is already required. If he gives you any argument, add two or three months to his lock up time. You could also be creative by locking him up for one month for every time you orgasm with your lover, and have him watch you. Different from failing to do something is a sort of agitation that many males including mine sometimes get when they are in chastity as a result of their sexual frustration. Most of the time this finds a positive outlet in terms of showering you with attention, but sometimes your hubby will just need to be toned down. Good old fashion discipline in the form of corporal punishment is what many of us have found works well. Almost all the women I have talked with know their husbands are submissive to them but they are not wimps. In other parts of their life they tend to be dominant A-personalities types who exert lots of authority and are often high strung. Many have masochist tendencies as well. You can beat them yourself or it is easy to find a boyfriend who will do it for you. If you decided on the latter option, hubby gets to watch him fuck you after his punishment. A Pro Dominatrix will can also be used if you want to pay, Look for a no-nonsense disciplinarian type rather than a sensuous or man hating type. The disciplinarians almost all believe that married men should be locked up in chastity devices and know that if they deliver a well whipped hubby back to you that they will have a long term client. This has become an increasing part of their business as the number of chastity devices sold increases since some wives no longer fear that the dominatrix would have sex with their husband if he is sent to be disciplined locked up. This is probably the last thing you need to worry about though since the last thing a well established pro-dom wants to do is have sex with a client. If you think you might be tempted to let your hubby out early have the pro-dom hold the keys until the anniversary of his lockup and tell her to talk you out of earlier relief when you have those thoughts. You can always pick up the key from her for a scheduled teasing or inspection. You can also send him to the pro-dom to have his tube and penis inspected if he complains that he is having problems with his tube. Having her administer severe punishment if the request is not justified should nip this type of behavior in the bud before it gets started. You can also have a girlfriend you trust hold the keys. If you think a little humiliation would do him some good, send him over to clean her house and let her increase his lockup time for less than Bayan Escort perfect work. He will never get out. I use to think that disciplining my hubby was a chore. Now when I love to beat him long and hard, hooded and tied to a bench , he just melts under my cane and breaks down and cries, I sometimes have my friends help so they can practice, or if he has insulted them they can punish him too. Afterward, I hold him tight in my arms for a long time and then have him go down on me. The feeling I get is hard to describe. It is almost magical. I now feel sorry that most wives will never experience moments of this intense closeness with their husband. There are times when Mark does something that really makes me mad. When he does I send him to a great pro-dom I found. She usually starts with milking him, because when this happens he always gets at least a month added to his lock up. She really works him over and he is always on his best behavior for quite a while after he comes back. I recommend this strategy for any woman who wants to separate out the loving discipline that their husband occasionally needs from them and the serious punishment he sometimes richly deserves, which can be contracted out to a merciless third party. Prostate milking is a necessity if your male is locked up for over a month otherwise his prostate can get clogged up and his chance of getting prostate cancer increased. Milking causes a release of semen clearing out the prostrate but provides none of the satisfaction of an orgasm. A male is usually even more frustrated after a milking than before because he has been stimulated similar to an orgasm but not allowed to have it. Milking also helps to prevent nocturnal or spontaneous orgasms which can happen if he is locked up long enough without being milked or allowed to cum. You can look at prostate milking as a necessary procedure, a form of punishment or just fun. There are a number of ways to do it and milking is psychological more effective if done with the chastity device on. Some of the women use a rubber glove or anal probe specially designed for the purpose. This works but is slow and tedious.Using a strap-on and taking your man anally also works well if you go at it long enough and figure how to stimulate his prostrate. This is a favorite of many of the women I have talked with. They find it most amusing to orgasm themselves while forcing the semen to drool out of hubby’s chastity device with each in and out thrust. I give it a go every so often particularly when I want some penetration with a great arched doubled sided feeldoe dildo that some clever woman designed. You can also use an electrical stimulation device. This is usually a quick and almost clinical procedure if done right. It is what I typically do since I usually like to think of milking as something that should be done for medical reasons without even a hint of sexual enjoyment for him. I have a PES unit which requires two attachments to complete the circuit. One of attachments is an anal probe that slides right in with some lube and hits the prostate. The other is a strap that goes around his balls. I put him in a humbler on his hands and knees. Then, I turn up the dials to the right frequency, which I had to experiment with some to find, and the semen just steadily drips out. A professional dominatrix is also usually happy to milk hubby if you don’t want to and corporal punishment administered after a milking is more effective. Prostate milking is a wonderful thing to do and it is hard to over do. The semen drooling out will reduce the male’s testosterone level so he will be more mellow and docile after the milking. If you think that he is getting testy just put him on the milking stand and pump it out. Many men do not enjoy being penetrated rectally and they all really despise seeing their ejaculate expelled dripped out slowly without any sense of pleasure or release. Milking is a great way of reinforcing your complete control over his sexuality, and frequent reinforcement is always good. There may be times where you feel you have to unlock him to use his penis. Fortunately, there is a way to do this without letting him orgasm by using elamax numbing creame and a several condoms. This usually works but there is always a small risk that he will cum especially if he has been locked for a long time. Heavy milking will help and there are other alternatives that allow penetration without this risk. The easiest is to use is a strap-on dildo that is lifelike and bigger than his real penis. There are two models, the feeldoe and nexus that were designed by women that will give you great stimulation while allowing you to taken him anally. The Tickleberry and Good Vibration’s websites are good places to look. There are also a number double sided penis gags that you can use to ride his face and there is even a dildo you can strap around his thigh. The most fiendish devices are those that fit over his penis, tell him you love the size increase as it reminds you of one of your boyfriends cock. Lori sells a dildo sleeve that fits over the tube. The chastity tube does not have quite the right shape so it is not the most comfortable ride for you, but if you really want to get to him on the tease side it is hard to beat. He will be a wreck as there is no way the Lori’s tube will let him get erect but his mind and body will just keep on trying. Much better for your pleasure is a new device called Her Delight from the keptforher.com company that makes an insert to help prevent males from pulling out of their CB3000. This device uses the CB3000 teste ring to anchor a dildo that slides over hubby’s penis. He can get reasonably hard in it. This dildo is harder than Lori’s sleeve, but not too hard, so he gets very little in the way of stimulation that might lead to an orgasm. You on the other hand can have him keep at it as long you want and no worries that he will cum at all, much less too soon. Every so often I and many of the women I have talked with want the real thing. To make these rare opportunities for him to have intercourse with you work for both of you, you need to recognize that after being locked up for a long time he will cum with a hair trigger. He is also unlikely to get as large as he did before long term chastity unless you take him out of the tube and get him hard on a frequent basis. You can avoid disappointment if you stimulate him to orgasm in some way other than intercourse when you first let him out of the tube. After he cums give him a Viagra and wait an hour or so before you use him for sex. It is good for about three hours or you can give him a Cialis if you want to do an all day thing. Once he has cum the first time and recovered by the time the erection d**g takes effect, he will not orgasm nearly as easily and either of the two d**gs will get and keep him really hard even if he has another orgasm. Some of the women use their hubbies for intercourse for several days in a row treating the whole event as a single release period before they lock him back up for a prolonged duration. The big changes that you must make in yourself to make a chastity relationship work is to commit to frequently teasing him, like you no doubt did when you first dated, and to having much more frequent sex yourself by some means. However if you want feel a real cock fill you with cum you have to Cuckold your husband, most men actually love the idea if they can watch you with their lover, he can even help while locked up. The two can be one and the same thing. Having him perform cunnalingus on you while locked up is almost guaranteed to drive to the edge. Fortunately, for you the chastity device will keep him from going over. Just think the more sex you get without letting him cum the more he wants you. If more women knew this secret there would be a lot more locked up husbands and boyfriends. Remember you have all the time in the world to train him to do the way you want without any need to worry about getting him off. Once locked all he does is fantasize about you. You will need to decide if you want to be the one that initiates sex or whether you want him to. My usual rule with Mark is that I will tell him when and how I want to be pleasured and he is expected to drop everything when this happens. This is clearly a control issue for me but your tastes may differ. One of my friends likes to have her husband instigate elaborate romantic seduction rituals. She never unlocks him during these events but on the rare occasion when he really out does himself, she gives him an orgasm the next day. The bliss point is when you get your hubby to the place he gets pleasure purely from your pleasure without thinking about his cock. Mark is not quite there yet but he is getting there. There are almost an infinite number of ways that you can tease him. There is the classic tie him down to the bed, take off the tube and work over his cock for hours. Every time you feel him close to an orgasm stop and straddle his face and have one or more yourself. Stay with it as long as you can and you will leave him a marshmallow. You may find that you have to ice down is penis to get back in the tube. Dress up in the way that drives him crazy and stand him at attention nude in his chastity tube while you softly stroke him all over except for ignoring his cock. He will struggle to stand tall as his cock struggles to grow in the chastity tube. Every woman needs to develop her own style. You can keep things fresh by continuing to experiment. It may seem like a lot of work but he will shower you with attention. The hardest thing will be getting that much attention again. If he doesn’t already, he will want to worship you as a goddess after you have locked him up for a while. This initially bothered some of the women I talked with who felt their hubby’s new found attention to be artificial. It is driven partially by his newly increased testosterone level but that is what also drove his courting of you. Most often he has agreed to being locked up because he desperately wants to want you that badly again. You need to reciprocate by demanding that he worship you as a goddess but you also need to figure out how to channel his attention in directions that are good and work for you. Those may be very different from his ideas of how he should worship you, but this is an area where your desires come first. You need to maintain strict control if you are going to be happy with the chastity arrangement, if you do you will be happy. While it is hard to do too much physical teasing, conversation, by far, plays the bigger part. It takes very little energy and allows you to increase his frustration without having to do anything. Telling him what you like about his predicament, letting him know how much you appreciate what he has done to become a better spouse, partner, friend and lover. Let him know how his being chaste turns you on, if seeing him struggle thru sexual frustration entertains you let him know. Maybe you enjoy his not being able to touch himself, whatever it is communicate it. You should also not forget that all of those things that use to drive you crazy like porn and ogling pretty young things can now be used against him. There is nothing like knowing that the chastity tube is really biting as his favorite eye candy passes by. The beauty of a good chastity device is that not only does it prevent him from getting an erection and masturbating but that the device is always silently working for you out of sight 24/7/365. It stimulates him at the first sign of arousal and then quickly constraining the budding erection. You should never miss an opportunity to point things that might arouse him. You might even pick up a copy of his previously favorite masturbatory reading material and thumb through it with him. It is understandable that there may be days that you want to ignore his situation. It is alright to not care that all the time that he is not no longer in control of his manhood and you can let him know that you don’t. Still you should not let this go more than a few days without making positive comments about his being locked up for you. The main thing if you are going to lock him up is that you need to make a commitment to yourself and him to make this work. I have told women who were thinking about chastity that if they were not willing to take control of the teasing, discipline and the frequency with which they had sex and the effort this entails that they might be better off in their old relationship where he ignored you and you ignored him. There is a way to get what you want but it will not happen by itself. He cannot change himself, but a chastity device and a lot of hard work on your part can mold him into the husband you have always dreamed about. As the endeavor in to chastity continues you will be able to add ideas and musings to your relationship that you find works well. Remembering the basic principles of how to keep your hubby under your spell will let you, and him, discover chastity’s amazing rewards. Always maintain the upper hand, do those things to show both you and him that your requests are nothing less than a requirement for him. You will never want to let things revert back to his self “lack of” control again. Believe me, the routine is effective and over the long term you’ll not regret it even though at times it seems like a lot of work. There is an old saying among those wives who adopted a chastity lifestyle because their husbands encouraged them “ be careful what you wish for.” I think some of the husbands would given a choice go back to their old ways, but none of the wives would. I think that deep down the men are happier because they wanted to be sexually controlled by their wives and now they are. Their new reality is often much different than their original fantasy because it is now your fantasy not his. I know the wives, who stuck it out through the trials and tribulations of finding a chastity device that worked and figuring out how to change their mindset from a need to give him orgasms to one of deserving all the orgasms they could ever want, are all much happier. They would never change a thing about the way they live now that they have a locked husband. The wives who have a locked Cuckold hubby are even happier with their total sexual freedom and having a husband who loves sharing them with her lovers because he places their sexual happiness first. I hope sharing this with you might get you to consider a change of lifestyle, I changed and I love it as does my Chaste Cuckold husband.
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